These procedures are unnecessary for the most part, and they should only be up to the discretion of the woman's gynecologist, not that of lawmakers who have never so much as had one or anything like it, or who would never need an abortion. It's coerced vaginal penetration--state-sponsored rape.
Transvaginal ultrasounds are expensive. Prohibitively so. They are uncomfortable at best, and if you have anything like cysts or endometriosis, they are painful. No one likes their organs stirred with a baton, even when it's necessary. Worst of all, these alleyway assaultists want to do it to women who are up to 12 weeks pregnant.
And, most importantly, any and all ultrasounds of women are not the business of largely male legislators or of the law at all. Women's bodies are not the business of people who work in big buildings with breasts on the roof. They are not the business of yapping lickspittle curs who run around with bigger curs toting cameras behind them. They are not the business of anyone but individual women and their unlegislated doctors, and I am sick to death of these blatherskite louse-cracking pox-brained scum-lapping muckrollers who want to commandeer our lives for their votes. Goddess curse them all with boils, shingles, and ooze of their privy parts.
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It's forceful penetration of a woman's vagina against her will or at the very least, coerced consent under duress. How is it NOT rape?
The first time I had a pelvic, I was 13 and no one had told me I was going to have one right then or what was entitled. Rattled but trying to joke, I called the doctor "a dirty old man." The staff at the group home reamed me out, made me apologize to him, and ignored my efforts to explain.
It was "coerced consent under duress" that made me see.
I can understand. When I was about that age, I would sometimes be unable to pee due to a very painful pain on my left side somewhere. The doctors decided to shove a catheter up my urethra to fill my bladder and give me an ultrasound while I peed on the exam table. I was terrified (enough so that four Valium did nothing to help).
Well, they got the tube up my urethra--after first shoving it up my vagina and filling that with water. And I then got yelled at for screaming in immense pain and for being terrified. (And I never did manage to go on the table.)
I don't know if that experience counts as rape, or if the one when I was 7 and had boils down there and had people poking and prodding and shoving stuff up there when I didn't know what was going on does (as I was a very intelligent but in all other ways very behind seven-year-old, due to undiagnosed ASD and learning disabilities), but it has made me so terrified of anyone doing anything down there that the husband is forbidden to go there, and I can't even contemplate a doctor doing so for any reason.
No wonder you're terrified. It's amazing you can sustain a sex life at all! I'm terrified of those bladder exams, and I've had them as an adult. They're excruciating when you have inflammation of any kind, not to mention the shame issues involved in urinating in front of people. Urologists are so accustomed to it that they forget, but certainly in the case of young patients they ought to be more considerate, damn it!
People don't get how frightening they are to kids, particularly when they loom over them, don't explain, and yell at the kid for procedures that would make *them* yell.
Have you seen a rape counselor? I'm serious. A lot of the things that happened to you then seem to me to share a lot of the same triggers as rape, and I bet rape counselors would understand better than anyone else, and know more effective ways to help you deal with the ongoing trauma than any other kind of counselor. Especially counselors who are accustomed to working with people who are dealing with childhood assault. It would be worth it, don't you think, if they could help you deal with this pain?
I do not understand why doctors can't be more understanding of when people are scared and hurting because of something the doctor is doing. Then again, even my mother got mad and yelled at me for being terrified and screaming in pain--apparently I embarrassed her.
Politicians need to get their heads around the fact that this should not be an issue: if we were to hear about placing equivalent medical procedures on men, there would be uproar. This double standard between men and women is getting absurd.
There was -- the woman legislator who tried to amend a bill so that every man who wanted Viagra or similar would first need a rectal exam and a stress test to see if he was healthy enough to engage in sex. Of course it was voted down by the mostly-male body, and was only a one-day wonder in the news.
I'd love to see a bill for 'no Viagra over 50', on the theory that if your SO is past child-bearing age, the man has no need for erections. Maybe *that* would make them think.
You're right; more people need to do or say something to force a reality check on men. EG -- Do you *want* to work three jobs to provide for a family of 6, or 8, or 10 children? Are you willing to not have sex with your wife for 10 days out of every month so you can avoid having 6, 8, or 10 children? Do you *really* consider women unequal beings who are only good for bearing children?
(Which may be the case, but even if they deny it, putting the question that way may make more people think about it. I wish.)
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Since the men are anti-birth control for women, I think that a woman politician should propose a bill making forced sterilization mandatory for all men whose wives and/or girlfriends do not want to have children, cannot safely have children, or who have genetic conditions that they don't want to pass on to children.
Also, all unwanted children resulting from the anti-birth control nonsense shall have multiple fathers under law--the co-sponsors of the anti-birth control bill (if there are any women co-sponsors, this will apply to them as well) and each and every Catholic bishop. The legal fathers will be expected to provide financially for every one of these children. Clergy of any religion will NOT be exempt.
I don't expect either to pass, but the proposals might get the point across to a few male politicians, though not most of them.
Ooh, I like the way you think. My ideas might hit home on an individual level -- if there are men who actually don't want their SO's to use BC -- but yours would stir up a national firestorm/conversation.
For legal fathers, not just Catholic bishops, because clergy of other faiths were on that panel, but any clergy who is anti-birth control.
AND every unmarried male in the nation. If half of the population are forced to be breeding machines, the other half should be forced to support their children.
And no, it wouldn't pass, but it sure would be nice if the voting population rose up en mass and forced the legislators to back off this nonsense, and/or voted every one of them out of the Congress and Senate.
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This would make me happy.
I second it.
You mean this crop hasn't?
...have I mentioned lately how much I love you and your way with words? I'm torn between wanting more books from you, and having you run for some kind of public office. I'd move up there just to vote for you, that's for damn sure~
~Angel
Thank you for the compliments, but you know that sooner or later I'd forget myself and say what I really thought, and they're tar and feather me, right?
~Angel
...Then again, aren't those the same people who were trying to redefine rape as "forcible rape?" Just a means to this end, I suppose. How can it be rape if we've just redefined rape as a forced entry, proven only by bruising, scraping, and laceration?
This is one of many reasons why I should run for legislative office: so I can be the voice of reason in a room otherwise full to the brim with blithering idiots.
Yeah, the two times I thought I might need one I was a flat broke student who couldn't even support herself let alone anyone else, with a family with no money. It was convenient to my lifestyle not to burden society with another poverty baby if I didn't have to. I also had a fifty percent chance of passing on an ugly neurological disease; no one was contesting my right to have an abortion rather than risk passing that onto a kid. Luckily I had Old Faithful between my legs; both times I was simply late.
My welfare mother was forced to have the baby rather than the "matter of lifestyle convenience." She gave her up for adoption. We have no way to track her down to warn her, since we don't know the hospital, the birthdate, anything.
Convenience abortion the devil's seamed and reeking bum.
The first time was uncomfortable. The second time was agonizingly painful, and could easily have been triggering. I'm grateful it wasn't for me, but I cannot imagine going through that as a recent victim of sexual assault. I cannot bear the thought of ANY woman being forced to undergo such an invasive, humiliating ordeal, and all because some asshole has decided we must be shamed and mishandled if we dare to obtain a legal medical procedure.